Grief and loss counseling after suicide
When someone you love takes their own life unexpectedly or after a period of depression, it feels like a nightmare. Or maybe you feel a bit relieved because you don’t have to live in constant fear anymore, always on the lookout for a goodbye message or the actual death.
You may be left with all kinds of questions (why?) and be torn apart by grief, guilt, and anger.
Together, we will lovingly work through your grief, taking small steps. I work with various methods and techniques, which I use intuitively. There is no set time frame for processing grief and loss, and everything that preceded the death. Everyone grieves in their own way and at their own pace.
The goal of grief and loss counseling
My counseling is aimed at allowing your grief and all your emotions to be there, instead of suppressing them and just carrying on. Only then can you heal them. We then move lovingly towards acceptance of the choice made by your loved one, towards resignation and processing.
Time does not heal all wounds
Hiding your grief and radically changing your attitude after the loss of a loved one does not work. It may work in the short term, but sooner or later your emotions will resurface. Or they may ‘erupt’ when faced with another death or traumatic event. Time does not heal all wounds, but the right counseling and therapy can make a difference and help you process your grief.
Closure after death by suicide
When someone chooses to commit suicide and dies (suddenly), you may be left with all kinds of questions and unfinished business that you would have liked to resolve. Part of my grief and loss counseling involves energetically closing certain matters after a death by suicide. I can act as a bridge between you and your deceased loved one and energetically close off certain issues. Sometimes this also brings answers to questions. In my experience, this can bring a great deal of peace (of mind) to both the deceased and their loved ones. This allows the deceased to pass on more peacefully and makes it easier for you, as a loved one, to accept and process what has happened.
Completing unfinished business and forgiveness
When someone has just passed away and let go of their physical body, they are still very connected to life on earth and it is easier to make contact with them. The Tibetan Book of the Dead mentions a period of 40 days during which a person slowly passes away. This period is suitable for resolving issues and forgiveness, which can prevent karmic entanglements in a future life and in future generations in the family line.
End-of-life doula
Completing my training as a psychosocial therapist and my thesis research into the healing effects of guidance by an end-of-life doula have changed my thoughts and feelings about death. Death is not the end, but the beginning of a new journey. Death is part of life and part of the natural flow. A good question to ask yourself is: “What do you need to enter the dying process with confidence, and what do you wish for your loved one before and after their death?”
Free, no-obligation introductory meeting
Seeking help in this situation can be difficult and stressful. I offer you the opportunity to get to know me at your leisure. This can be done during a free, no-obligation half-hour meeting. During this meeting, you can get a feel for my energy, and we can discuss your needs and how I work. We will agree on the frequency of the appointments in mutual consultation.