Be Kind to Yourself – The Power of Our Words/Thoughts

By: Ilse Westerhoff #30DayFeelGoodPlan Day 1

We are all often inclined to be kinder to others than we are to ourselves. We judge and criticize ourselves daily. And we expect others to make us feel good, to confirm that we are good enough just as we are. There are undoubtedly many reasons why we have become conditioned this way. And it is up to us whether we want to break this conditioning, or not. How beautiful would it be if we dared to embrace ourselves. It doesn’t have to happen in big steps—small steps are just fine. And if we fall, we simply get back up again…

It starts with listening to what YOU need, instead of what you think others want from you and that you must live up to.

We can teach ourselves that every time we catch a negative thought about ourselves, we consciously place a positive thought opposite it. Below are some examples of positive thoughts. By reminding yourself of these every day, you can learn to love yourself. Because you are worth it!

Be yourself—there are already so many others!
I am allowed to be who I am.
I am valuable simply because I exist.
Guilt leads nowhere.
I love myself unconditionally. I never give my power away to anything or anyone.
I decide whether I want to feel happy or sad.
I am allowed to make mistakes; I learn from them.
I am brave and calm, and I experience the source of strength within myself.
I trust that everything will work out.
I find safety within myself.
I use the source of strength within me to achieve what I want.
I am allowed to love myself.

Finally, I would like to mention the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, because I always feel them to be a powerful reminder and a way to stay strong.

Be impeccable with your words
Don’t take anything personally
Take responsibility
Always do your best